My name is Carly Hawkins and I am a coach, teacher, facilitator, guide, partner, mother and friend.
I walk with people on their path to find their true identity, in whatever form that takes.
Long before I became a coach I always believed my purpose was to help people be the best they could be. But to make this purpose a reality and to really feel like I was living this purpose on a daily basis, I needed to find out what my path was. Growing up I was always someone who had faith in my ability to achieve, but a large part of my focus was on competing with men. I was so focused on beating men at their own game that I didn’t stop to think if I even wanted to play. I lost my identity in an environment where achievement was defined by winning. This identity continued for me in my corporate career. As a project manager I was rapidly moving up the corporate chain, managing in the coaching style that I knew inherently worked for me but I was denying and missing out on my feminine power. It wasn’t until I started to work with an amazing female manager who supported and built up other women, that I found a way for the masculine and feminine within me to sit side by side complimenting each other. My identity could now be whole and not just an element of who I was.
At the same time I was going through my own identity crisis, I had sought out and found another wonderful woman who challenged my thinking that “I should have” it all sorted out by the time I was thirty. I’d spent the whole of my twenty’s fighting the notion of living a conventional life, thinking that I had all the time in the world. And here I was at thirty, panicking because I didn’t have my life sorted. I wasn’t married with kids and a mortgage; I didn’t have a career that I love and had not travelled enough. Everyone else had it figured out, didn’t they?
I had an epiphany that to truly understand myself and my place in this world I needed to stop fighting myself and embrace who I truly was.
It was so liberating to let go of the identity that I’d felt that I’d needed to have in this world and the pressure to live up to that identity. It also signalled a time in my life when I started being honest with myself and others about what I really wanted. I didn’t want casual relationships or friendships, and whilst I was good at my job, I wanted to find what I really loved.
This was my turning point. This was when I allowed myself to truly get to know the real me. And I was able to form my true identity, as I actually listened.
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In three years I had achieved the five to ten year dreams I had for my life. Cam and I have a beautiful son, Cooper, with another on the way. We travel. We moved our family to a beautiful home by the beach. I spend quality time with friends that come and stay for the weekend, and I perform the work that I love. I work with other women who are going through change, be it internal or external, seeking their true identity. This is my true identity. This is who I am in the world and it’s so liberating to be able to truly embrace it. No longer do I need to question who I am or what I am doing, I can just own it.
I understand that struggle to find and remember who you really are. I help other people on their journey to find their true identity. How do you then apply that identity to your career, your family, your friends and juggling the many hats of motherhood? I will hold the mirror up so you don’t forget that true identity, ensuring you keep it in the front of your mind and discover how to be your true self in every aspect of your life.
I am a qualified personal, business and wellness coach, teacher and facilitator. I use my compassion, empathy, intuition, enthusiasm and abundance of energy, to be the person you need to guide you on your path to finding your unique identity.
Walk with me down the path to find your true identity.
“Carly over delivers on expectations; a coach that actively listens and asks the right questions to trigger a need for change, whilst easing the process mentally and emotionally. I started to benefit from her help immediately and it manifested in me being more adaptable to change; performing well under pressure/stress and actively seeking professional growth opportunities internally and externally.”